Friday, 15 April 2016



I'm sorry it's been a long time since my last blog but personal changes and events have left me with no time and energy to write. 
Fortunately my life has started to settle down again. 

One thing I have been doing a lot of recently is worrying. We all know that worry doesn't help. Still it's very hard to stop our thoughts. Having a long term and chronic health problem only makes matters worse. 

I worry 

  • when I feel so ill with symptoms that are overwhelming and frightening
  • when new symptoms develop
  • and feel that I'm getting worse
  • that I could end up unable to move or worse yet I could die
  • that a cure will never be found and the rest of my life will be like this
  • when I can't sleep and my mind is racing
  • because I feel alone and without help
  • about practical things and all the daily problems
  • about my finances and being able to cope
  • every day it seems!        


My body
Feels so weak
My throat is
Hurting and
It`s hard to speak

My heart is
Beating fast
I can`t breathe
And believe
This is my last

My head is
Spinning round
I could lose
Balance and
Fall to the ground 

I can`t sleep
In the night
Lay awake
And worry
Until daylight

In case
I become
To move and
Feel terrified

My income
Is shrinking
At the same
Time my debts
Are increasing

My future
Is unsure
My illness
Seems lifelong

And there's no cure!

Do you have the same worries? Are there other things that you worry about? 
How can we live with all these worries? 

I suppose we all have different strategies of dealing with worry. 

I try to distract my thoughts and find something to occupy my mind. 

I try to practice meditation and mindfulness. 

I have a favourite guided meditation web site called Fragrant Heart. There are many others. Find one that suits you.

I find time to write down my problems and worries and deal with them one at a time. 

I take one day at a time.

I share some of my worries with good friends.

I have tried to make my life as simple as possible and free from possible stress factors and relationships. 

Yet there are some things I have no control over so I realise there's no point in worrying. I have to accept that I can't control everything in my life.   

Otherwise I don't have any magical solutions. Life is always full of stress and worry. Sometimes it's how we deal with that life that makes the difference. 

I would love to hear from you if you have any techniques which have helped you. 

In the meantime I will try to come to terms with my worries, live each day as it comes and try to stop worrying about what may never happen! 

Easier said than done!!!    

Au revoir 
From the French Femme xxx


  1. I have similar worries, it's hard to stop them and of course worry makes things worse. I hate laying awake with my mind racing and heart pounding.

    Hope things pick up a bit for you soon, take care. Jane

    1. Thank you Jane. It is very hard to stop worries but we can try different ways to control and reduce our worries.

  2. I suffer with the same worries - although I have Sjogrens and not ME - but the symptoms are very similar and the energy crashes are the same.

    I personally find if I am in a flare up I don't cope so well because I don't have the energy to and that alone is scary.

    MY saviour is my photography, my creative outlet - something I can lose myself in and set the problems of the world to one side and or at least get them into perspective. When I have the energy I go out and take images - always flowers and I connect with nature. When I am unwell, I work on my images in lightroom and photoshop.

    Thank you for the blog and for connecting :)

    1. Gillian I think having a creative outlet is one way that can help us. Mine is in writing and especially poems. Thank you for your response

    2. When I worry to the point of despair,I look on the Internet for positive quotes on beautiful pictures. I do it with the thought that someone else is awake and also suffering.Then post them on Twitter. I don't give false hope that everything is going to be okay if you believe hard enough, exercise, do yoga, etc. I post about self care, holding on during hard times, realistic inspirational quotes, interesting articles, etc. People seem to like it and it gives me something do when I am desperate and alone. Sometimes I feel better after posting. Sometimes I don't. But if even one person is comforted, it helps me. I'm berlee60 on Twitter.

    3. Thank you for your comment Beryle. I too look for positive and uplifting quotes. I will look for you on Twitter.