Personally I try to take one day at a time, not to look back and not too far in the future. Otherwise that`s just a recipe for depression. Still sometimes I am reminded of my life before illness. This short poem of mine is a summary of a look back and looking forward...
I Look Back
I look back
And what do I see?
That I used to be,
Happy and carefree,
A life that
Was full and busy,
With some dreams for me,
Was that really me?
And what do I see?
I`m not sure
What I can now be,
All is lost
A life that`s empty,
No future for me,
A new life
I must make for me,
A life sick
A life with M.E.
But what if you could go back to the past. What would you do differently? What advice would you give to your earlier self?
In Star Trek The Original Series there`s an episode about time travel The City on the edge of forever where `The Guardian of Forever` is a door way to any time and place.
This `Guardian of Forever` is used again in Star Trek The Next Generation in a story called Imzadi where Admiral Riker uses this door way to save Deanna who is the love of his life and his Imzadi.
Now imagine if you could use such a door way and go back in time. What would you do or say to advise your earlier self?
If I could use the time portal as in Star Trek I would go back in time and tell myself about M.E.
These are the things I would say
· Take it seriously from day one
· Don`t push yourself
· Don`t do graded exercise
· Change your doctor earlier to one more sympathetic and understanding
· Don`t resign from your job
· Try to get ill health retirement
· Don`t force yourself to work at any cost
· Don`t take on a new job when you know deep down that you`re not well
· Be honest with yourself about your abilities and your health
· Find out as much as possible about your illness
· Accept that it is a long term chronic illness
· Accept it sooner and not fight against it
· Know that you will have some bad and good periods
· Avoid stress as much as possible as it will only make you worse
· Don`t assume that you will get better
· Plan you life according to the restrictions of the illness
· Rest and relax more
· Don`t waste time trying to convince family & friends that you are truly ill
· Learn how to best pace and manage your illness
· Say “no” more often
· Don`t be bullied into doing things that are too much for you
· Don`t worry about the jobs you can`t do
· Take better care of yourself and put yourself first
· Push for more help and support from the medical profession
· And above all know that life will go on albeit not the same
I wonder if I had all that help and advice things would have been different?
So if you had the chance to use such a time portal what would you say to your earlier self?
Well time travel hasn`t been discovered yet! I can look back at my past but I can`t go back and change it.
BUT what I can do is to help others who are newly diagnosed with M.E. I can give some help and advice which I didn`t have. I can help others not to make the same mistakes.
Here`s a good starting point for the newly diagnosed. Although it`s a relief to have a diagnosis it can be overwhelming.
Now I wonder what I would find if I used the time portal to make a trip into the future. Perhaps it`s best not to know!
From the French Femme xxx