There could be a combination of reasons for this. Perhaps you can identify with any or all of the below
- you lose contact with family and friends who don't understand your illness or who don't know what to say or do.
- you may become bed bound or house bound and are no longer able to leave the house.
- you are unable to work.
- you are no longer able to socialize.
- you are too ill to spend long on the phone, if at all
- you may be too ill to write letters
- you may not have access to a computer
- you may be too ill to spend a lot of time on the internet
- you may live in an isolated place and are unable to drive or use public transport
- you live alone
Why? Simply because I had computer problems and for nearly two weeks I was without one. I lost contact with my friends and family. I lost all the help, friendship and support I find on a daily basis through my computer. Most of it is on face book where I have built up over many years a wonderful network of friends who make all the difference to my life. Without it I felt totally lost, had withdrawal symptoms, felt lonely and started to feel depressed. I had other things I could do and took to writing more poems. But I missed that contact.
Thankfully I have now resolved my computer problems but it has made me think and realise how my life has changed and how I am dependant on my computer and this virtual world I have created.
I have written a poem about being isolated
From all I know
From all I love
Fills me with woe
Or visit me
As friends I lose
Now a recluse
Now friends `online`
Eases my time
Sick and in pain
My life now changed
Nothing the same
And so lonely
I cry some tears
Thinking “If only”
Each endless day
In these four walls
I have to stay
I hope and pray
I can escape
And get away
Through my window
Life that`s not mine
Behind a veil
Just like a jail
So what can you do to avoid isolation?
Of course without recovery to full and normal health it's hard not to feel isolated and there is only so much we can do.
Here's my list of suggestions that may help you to feel less isolated and lonely
- sign up to face book or any other online forums relating to your illness as it helps so much to find others who suffer the same
- find and join a local support group in your area
- when you feel well enough arrange to have a chat with a friend or a member of your family who understands and is sympathetic, as even five minutes can lift your spirits
- write a short letter if you are able and maybe you will receive one in return
- if you feel well enough go out but plan and make sure you have rests before and afterwards
- if you feel well enough arrange for a friend or family to visit for a short while but don't be afraid to ask them to leave
- I find listening to the radio or the tv helps me
Maybe you have other suggestions. I would love to hear from you.
Meanwhile, as in the photo above, this caterpillar has found her wings and can fly away from isolation.
A bientot from the French Femme